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Excuses, Excuses, Excuses ……………..

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Well, I think we have heard them all, don’t you – I’m busy, I don’t understand how to do this and that, I’m shy about meeting new people, I don’t know how to talk to others, I can’t get anyone to join my sites, I’ll do it tomorrow, etc. and the list goes on and on. So after hearing a few more today AGAIN – I thought I’d take the time to vent some of my thoughts.

I have some favorite quotes that come to mind when I hear people chatting –

Excuses are the nails used to build a
house of failure.
Don Wilder
Ninety-nine percent of failures come from
people who have the habit of making excuses.
George
W. Carver

See I’m in quite a few Skype Rooms and even tho I don’t chat alot in
them because I’m working – I do keep up with the conversations that go

on in them and it amazes me all the excuses that people come up with –

like the one that I’m too busy – don’t have time BUT yet was in the room

chatting for 15 minutes vs writing a post for their blog or finding a

way to help someone that needs it – it does not take long to do these

things if you learn to manage your time.

The best
day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No

apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is

yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the

quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”

Over the years being on many volunteer projects, I find that the people that are doing the most are the ones that make the time to help with these projects – they don’t use excuses – they just get it done – a doer In today’s life, many of us are busy – but if you are a doer – then you find away to make it happen – you don’t look for an excuse why it can’t be done or why you can’t be done.

“There’s a difference between interest and commitment.

When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance

permit.

When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.”

Art Turock

Over and over again I come across people with excuses, so I have changed my approach with them now – when they tell me I don’t have time – I say – lets do it together now I have a little time. Since I own traffic exchanges, I have had so many say I can’t do this as I don’t have a banner for my website – so I stop what I’m doing – go to their site and a few minutes give them a banner. Then I have people tell me, I’m not a writer – I can’t do blogs – so then I ask then then – well tell me what you are doing, tell me about your site, etc. whatever they are promoting and you know what I do then – I copy and paste what they are saying in notepad and then when they are done – I ask them now if you had to sum that up into a one-liner what would you say and then after they are done I copy and paste what they just gave me and they just wrote their first blog post – it’s that easy people.

Listen to what others are saying and if you take away their excuses – you and them both will benefit, can’t you see that – that is what we mean by helping others. It’s not easy starting online but with some guidance we all can climb to the top together – that is call teamwork.

Sooooooooo the next time you are going to make an excuse – STOP AND THINK – why am I making that excuse – most of the time in the time that you came up with the excuse – you could almost have had the project done – be a DOER When others are giving you excuses – take them away – by helping them – making them a doer also – once they have experienced it once – they most likely will keep going after that.

My greatest asset

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Oh, I am so loving The Leaders Role as they sure like to challenge us and really make us dig deep and get us use to writing articles and blog posts – this weeks’ assignment was to write about “What is your greatest asset”

I was so stumped by this and had a chat with Kris and him knowing I love my gardens ask me to just go out to my gardens and think about it. Well, I did and I listened to the birds sing to me and thought about what are my assets – I looked around at my house, my gardens, my barn, my vehicle, etc. and then thought about my family, my friends, but you know what I discovered was that all these things happened in my life because of “Me” and my determination.

Growing up, I always heard from my family that I would never amount to anything and just be content being a mill rat like the rest of the family. Well, determined to prove them wrong, I made sure that I got the education that would get me a different job. Then I became a single parent right after high school and it was my determination to keep my son – keeping in mind that when I was in high school – people went to unwed mother’s home and gave up their kids for adoption. After having my son, I was also determined to work and support him so I worked 3rd shift so my Aunt could take care of him while I worked and then I took care of him during the day and slept when he took his nap.

Well, we all make decisions that we have to learn to live with and I made one that for 10 years I had to live with and that was living with an abusive husband – BUT I was determined that someday I would be free of him. That day finally came, when we ran out of gas in our vehicle and got stranded in WI – and my 1st husband got arrested and was shipped back to NC. Once again I was determined to be free of him finally and got a fresh start in a strange town – so moved on.

Met my 2nd husband going back to school, and together we started a landscaping company from scratch – again determined to keep the business growing and growing – I let the business consume me and my personal life. Then 25 years later, after building a successful business, my ex and I realized that the business was the only thing that we shared anymore – so we divorced.

AGAIN, determined to move on with my life, I set out to make a new single life for me and my friends ask me Nancy how can you put in the hours that you do? Well, once again it’s determination as you see I have a dream – I have goals that I have set for myself and I keep going as I know that I’m going to get there – it’s not if I’m going to get there – it’s just when.

Don’t get me wrong, I have my days that I think why in the world do you keep on with all the hours, not much personal time, and even have my doubts about if it’s really going to happen – but you know what – All of a sudden I’ll get an email from a member of one of my sites that says thanks for your help, email from another friends that says the banner I made her is working great, another email from another saying it’s nice to have an honest site owner that shows she cares – and what happens – I get back up on my horse that I fell off of and onward I go – it’s all those things that tells me that this is why I do what I do and I get even more determined.

So when life knocks you off that horse, get back up shake off all the negative thoughts and get back on that horse keep going – DETERMINATION

I’d like to share a few of my favorite quote……….

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
“You’ve got to get up every morning with determination if you’re going to go to bed with satisfaction.”
“We must remember that one determined person can make a significant difference, and that a small group of determined people can change the course of history.”

Why People Fail

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As most of you know, I joined The Leaders Role and wow what i am learning and the live Skype group is just so awesome.  One of the owners of this great group came in and added this

Kris Hanks: please list one thing that comes to mind that is a CAUSE of Failure in our INDUSTRY?

Well, talking about team work – in about 10 minutes – 28 reasons were given – this was so fun to do and to see all the reasons. Kris then gave the group an assignment – pick 3 out of the 28 and write a blog or article.

I have gone thru the list and have picked 3 that I myself can relate with  I first started online.

My first one was FEAR – Being a newbie to the net, you hear all kinds of stories and the bad experiences that people have had. I was so scared that I was going to hit the wrong button and wipe out everything on my computer – I think about this now and laugh to myself at all the times that I have hit the wrong button and have deleted what I just wrote – but you know what all those oops taught me – save, save, save.

The other fear I had was using my name and my picture. Well big mistake, think about it – wouldn’t you rather do business with someone you can see and learn to trust, someone you know that is a real person and not someone with a name like lollipoplillie that has a picture of a peacock for their pic. I don’t know about you but the first thing that came to my mind was –  wonder who this really is, is it a real person – well that is when the lightbulb finally went on and for the last 3 years – you will see my name – google nancy radlinger sometimes and you will see that I got over being shy. This is called BRANDING and this work people – let people see that you are a real person, don’t be shy.

The 2nd I picked is LACK OF SKILLS  – well if you are like me when I first started – this was all GREEK to me – google, yahoo, email, URL, .jpg file, HTML, keywords, meta tags,  and the list goes on and on. Well, like alot of people that I have met are in the same boat – what does a person do – well google has become one of my best friends – if I have a question, get stuck – just google it – you will be surprised how many others had the same issues and you can find your answers. As you start learning your way around the net and social sites – more and more opportuntities (seminars, webinars, ebooks)  will pop up if you just keep searching. I have been so blessed with all the people that I have met on here and have friends all over the world.  I have learned mostly alot by trial and error (and I mean alot lol) – but lessons came out of each one of them. If you are suffering from the lack of skills like I did then find a group that are willing to help you gain the skills you need, give you the support your need and be a friend when you need one. The Leaders Role (wink, wink)

My 3rd one that I picked was MIND SET/Staying Positive.
This one was very hard for me as I just came out of a 25 year marriage and a negative-attitude based family. I do believe  in the power of the Law of Attraction – negative attracts negative and positive attracts positive. So after my divorce, I had a decision to make either I was going to stop being negative – oh poor me, everything happens to me, you know the type. Well, I decided that I had been given a chance to turn things around and I chose to learn to stay positive, positive, positive.  I have been so blessed over the last years and now I know that I am going to have my dreams come true – it’s not the If this happens, my dreams will come true NOW it’s when this happens, my dreams will come true. Yes, I do have bad days but you know I can always find a positive – you just have to look.  Believe in yourself.

Success lies not in being the best, but in doing your best!

“There’s a difference between interest and commitment.
When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit.
When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.”
Art Turock