Well, I have about stood all that I can without speaking out about some things that have been bothering me and is really annoying and think that many need to learn good manners etiquette online.
Over the years, I really don’t know where people manners have disappeared to and where they learned them as this has just been crazy and some really are just plain rude – so here goes lololol
The BIGGEST one is what don’t you understand about sites being a SOCIAL site. It’s sad to say but you are just pushing people away from you and if you are trying to earn money online – listen to this – it’s not working.
Over time, I have worked very hard building a list, building a relationship, and yes when I first started I knew everyone on my friends list personally. Now I will be the first one to admit that as the years have gone and I meet more and more people, it does get hard to chat with everyone as much.
BUT you people have to learn that Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, Yuwie, Swom, and the list goes on – are SOCIAL SITES. They are not advertising sites unless you want to buy some advertising and then put up your site.
The first thing you people have to learn is when you meet someone – it’s Hi, nice to meet you and maybe hope you have a great day, week or weekend. It’s not Hi, thanks for adding me and here is my miracle product that I want to cram down your throat. Well I don’t know about you but you know what I do with a HI like that – I remove you, delete you and block you most of the time. I see this all the time on these social sites. Naughty, Naughty, Naughty
And for you that are going to tell me I don’t do that I offer the newbie that I meet a free gift like I see in all the auto messages on Twitter – Hi thanks for the add and here is my free gift for you – well it may be free BUT it’s still a freaking link – delete, remove and block
You are never going to build your list or get people to buy anything from you unless you get to know them – SOCIALIZE with them and talk about them – here is a little tip – the word “I” is the least important word there is when you are first getting to know about someone – when that person is feeling comfortable with you – you know what?????? – they will will ask you well what do you do on here, how long you been online, etc.
ONLY when it gets to that point that you can mention “I” and then don’t go into this long sales pitch right away so that they are sorry they ask you. A simple I work online helping other to learn about internet marketing and then drop it – take it back to them. If they ask you how long you been online – then tell them that I have been online for 4, 5, 6 etc. years and love my job and then take it back to them.
You want to know why????? Because people really do like to be heard, they actually do like to share info about themselves if you will only let them – if you show an interest – listen to their fishing story, listen to them talking about their pets, their kids, their grandkids, their hobbies, and most of all what they are having problems with and what type of help that you can give them – THIS IS SOCIALIZING
Now another thing that is very annoying to me and can’t believe that so many grown adults just don’t know what the word “NO” is – when you have someone say NO then respect them and move on don’t keep yapping at them. You know what that is going to do the next time they see that you are online – they are going to become invisible to avoid you or they just delete you and blocked you.
Speaking of being invisible (as on skype) either means that they are not at their computer, they are working etc. or they don’t want to talk right now. So just leave them a message and ask them when they have some time could they contact you – you’d like to chat with them. AND when you see a green light – use some manners and ask the person – do you have a minute? got time for a question?
AND have you forgot what “DO NOT DISTURB” means????????? Well for all of you that have forgotten and I see this so much on Skype – it means they DO NOT WANT TO BE DISTURBED. That means – no messages, no chatting and surely no calls – now that is just rude and shame on all of you that don’t respect people enough to give them their privacy when they ask.
Good manners etiquette online is no different than offline – you need to learn to treat people like you would like to be treated – stop and think about what you are doing and what type of example are you setting when you don’t watch your manners.